How To Stop Screwing Yourself Over

I watched a TED talk delivered by Mel Robbins recorded back in 2011 called “How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over”. I really appreciate the straight talk style she brought and it is clear that many other folks do too at over 10 millions views.

Her key message was that anyone can get anything they want. It’s simple. But it is not easy!  Mel goes on to describe how people “settle” so often by saying that they are “fine”.  Fine is a word she won’t accept, calling it feeble and flimsy. Just tell the truth. If you’re day sucks…say so. If you are doing great…say so.  The odds of us being born in today’s era are 1:400,000,000,000 (that’s one in 400 trillion!).

You’re not fine, you’re FANTASTIC!

If you really want something, you are going to have to get out of your comfort zone. The fact is that you are never going to FEEL like it. You’ll need to get off autopilot and do something more/ different to get what you want. Force yourself to be uncomfortable. Get out of your head, get past your feelings and outside your comfort zone.

Here’s a quick tactic to get you to start expanding your comfort zone. From the moment an idea pops into your head, take an action, any action, within 5 seconds of that thought. It could be as simple as writing the idea down, saying hello to someone new, or picking up the phone. If you haven’t married the thought to an action, it simply won’t happen. Doing something is the key.